I have been seeing sex workers for over twenty years. From spending thousands in a strip climb to an exclusive extended date. My first experience with a FSSW was overseas in Thailand. I went to a brothel and picked out a lady and it was a good experience. During that trip, I also met a lady at a karaoke bar who provided more of a GFE service and that was also great.
When I returned to the US, I began looking for that same experience. I started with some of the Asian massage places and Backpage. I had some good and some bad experiences. I continued this when I got married for a little excitement and variety (at first).
However, I realized my sexuality shifted and I developed kinks that my partner couldn’t (wouldn’t) participate in. I saw female and transgender providers and even had a couple trysts with a gay man. This kept going for many years. All of these experiences were short 30 minutes to an hour. Essentially a “hit it and get out of there” scenario.
When Backpage went down due to FOSTA, just like many, I panicked. Many replacements have sprung up throughout the years (Switter, skipthegames, Twitter)
I had always been an avid Twitter user but when I discovered SW Twitter, it was eye opening. I really appreciated how you can get to know someone from what they post. I found you can search for #datecity and fill in the city name to find providers locally. And once the algorithm starts, you’re in the rabbit hole.
In 2022, I searched up the city I was going to go to for a conference and found an intriguing lady - let’s call her K. Based on her posts, she enjoyed many similar kinks. I booked her for a two hour date. During the date, I really enjoyed the conversation. When I told her about my kinks, K’s eyes would light up. It was so comforting to be able to share this in a non-judgmental space. The two hours flew by and I asked if I could extend to three (which I had never done before). I vowed to myself I would come back and see K next time I was in that city which wasn’t until the next year.
Throughout the year, I would do my normal routine of seeing providers for an hour. But I kept in touch with K by booking a couple virtual dates which I had NEVER done before. In the first virtual date, we didn’t do anything but chat like friends catching up. The subsequent dates got a little steamier…I would also tip K and get some gifts off her wishlist. And while I’ve done this before in small amounts for other providers, I definitely spent much more on K.
As 2023 rolled around, I planned my trip and reached out to K. I decided to schedule back to back 4 hour dinner dates. The first one was amazing. It was so nice to see her in the flesh again after building up the relationship virtual over the last year. But again the time flew by so I decided to extend the second date to 6 hours…by FAR the longest time I’ve ever spent with a companion.
Again, I kept in touch with K with some virtual dates. I saw there was a show in her town and I reached out to see if she would want to have an overnight with me. I was nervous because I hadn’t slept beside anyone but my partner for years. As the time drew closer, again, I thought about never having enough time so I asked to extend it to 24 hours. As we sent ideas back and forth on how to spend the time, I realized even 24 hours wouldn’t be enough so I asked to extend it to 48 hours.
My first ever extended date was like a dream. Amazing food, experiences, and an intimacy I did not expect to find. Building this relationship over the last year and a half has been one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. It’s so strange and wonderful that in this crazy world, I found my person that makes me happy.
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