Confessions & Sexploration With a Female-Lead Couple

I had the pleasure of meeting a couple last week. They were both married - but to other people. Look, it’s not anyone’s place to judge. I meet a lot of married individuals whose needs are met by their partner in several aspects but are missing the element of physical touch and sexploration. It’s unreasonable to believe one person can meet all of our needs.

Her energy matched mine. She loved watching him squirm and putting him on the spot. I could tell she loved being in control of his pleasure - and I believe he liked it too which made them such a powerful and sexually compatible couple.

When they walked through my front door, we had a moment to chat and connect. I actually met him about 5 years ago (only once) in the condo that I was in prior to the unit that I have now. He shared that he thought an experience with me would be a great introduction for the start of their sexual exploration together because he said he had an excellent experience with me the first and only time we met. My first impression of her was that I felt intimidated (and I liked it) - but he said that she was nervous. She was a little hard to read and I think she liked it that way - she liked being in control as I do but she was willing to submit to her comfort level during our time together.

He poured us each a glass of wine and we moved over the couch to chat. I had the privilege of watching the dynamic of their relationship - her putting him on the spot to talk since she said she’s the one who usually takes charge. He told me that they talked about starting to explore sexually together and that this was their first shared experience. She told me she is turned on by the idea playing with other men - with him at the centre of the interaction. Her absolute fantasy would be him getting fucked by another man while he fucked her. So hot!

We moved into the topic of boundaries and I wanted to truly understand how they know exploring with others will not negatively impact their relationship. She had some excellent answers and I understood that she had time to reflect on this. She explained that, regardless of who they interact with, she needed to ensure that she was part of building the connection with him, as opposed to apart from him. I found this fascinating because I’ve heard mixed thoughts around this. Some people prefer not to build too much of a connection to keep a stronger boundary whereas others (specifically women) have told me they prefer to build some sort of connection. She explained that him bringing someone home would not suffice because him and her would have to be part of the build-up in the connection - chatting, laughing and taking turns spending quality time with the other individual(s), ensuring that he nor she feels excluded from the interaction. This is also why it was important for us to sit on the couch and chat before playing.

We also spoke about something else that stood out to me. Many men feel shy about sharing their desire to explore with other men - this is such a common reason for delaying the opportunity for bi-curious experiences. However, she mentioned that she has always been interested in exploring with women but has always avoided it because of the objectification she experienced when she shared this desire with other men. Although I experienced her to be a confident and openly sexual woman (and she validated this by telling me she enjoys making open sexual jokes with others), there was apprehension to explore her bisexual side due to the negative reactions she felt when she shared this vulnerability around her desire to further explore. I found this interesting because I remember having a female client, who was also a sex worker, and she said she was repulsed by how much (some) men objectify her when she would talk about these women. I mean, it’s only natural for some men to react this way given the role of porn and how it has set these expectations in, not only female to female interactions, but also any type of sexual exploration. I did reassure her of something she already knew - that there are a lot of amazing men (like her partner) out there that practice more tact than deliberately (or unknowingly) trying to make others feel dehumanized.

After some great cerebral conversations and emotional connection, I lead them into my massage room and instructed her to lay naked and face down on my massage table while he sat in the white viewing chair fully clothed. I undressed with her to calm her nerves, although I doubt she was as nervous as I was assuming. I was massaging and teasing her - working from her right side, down to her feet and moving over to her left side. I could tell she didn’t want to take the lead today so I took the initiative to tell him to undress and help me massage her after giving her ample time to unwind and adjust to my sensual touch.

Her pussy was dripping wet and he was hard as a rock. I was playing with her and teasing her. After some time, I asked her to flip over and she agreed without hesitation. She was playing with him and I was playing with her. I also took her hand and gave her permission to touch me all over. I wanted to ensure I brought her out of any headspace that would inspire any sort of hesitation. But she made it into my space knowing what she was signing up for and she was strong enough to overcome any of these intrusive and unhelpful thoughts. I wanted to ensure that she was in a safe space.

I knelt up on the table and put my breasts in her face while I played with her clit. She had amazing soft and sensual touch. I made my way to her breasts, licking and gently sucking her nipples. I kept playing with her and made her cum a few times. After a few rounds, her and him switched and he was laying down while we stood on either side of him. I was playing with his cock while he was touching us both. He could not climax and she asked if he could fuck her. He commented on the time (we were well over) and I could tell his mind was focused on respecting my time. However, I reassured him that I was in control and that it was my responsibility to keep track - not theirs - and so I told them I would love to watch them together.

She laid down and he got on top of her. She wanted me inside of him while he penetrated her. Every time he would move his cock out of her vagina, my finger would penetrate him deeply. I would tell her every time I would penetrate him, and she was moaning with pleasure at the thought of it. Thankfully I have mirrors on my wall so she could watch from a different angle.

The pleasure was slowly becoming overstimulating for him so I took my finger out and played with the outside of his bum, using my other hand to tickle his balls while he gave it to her good. After a few minutes, he climaxed blowing his load all over her. Sometimes, less touch is more and it is essential to identify when things can become too much as I mentioned in my last week’s blog.

I got them both hot towels to clean up with and they excused themselves to the shower.

They were both grateful for the amazing experience, and I’m grateful that I had the opportunity to meet them and that they felt comfortable with me. They told me they were excited to come back and explore with me further. He dropped me the email below to further express his gratitude and promise for a next time.