You Don’t Need to Resolve Anyone’s Conscience to Validate Your Experience

I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted on my blog, but here I am - to not only reassure you that I’m still here, but also to tell you, I have a lot of stories that I’m excited to share when I feel the time is right.

As this year comes to an end, I’ve spent some time reflecting on something that’s stayed consistent for me, even during difficult moments.

Sometimes there are power imbalances in life. Sometimes people take advantage of situations when a person is acting in good faith and assuming the best in others. When those situations come to light, I’ve noticed how quickly blame can shift to the person who was affected, as though things are always simple or obvious in real time.

They rarely are.

I’ve learned that shifting blame away from one’s accountability is often a way for people to avoid sitting with discomfort. It allows situations to be explained away without anyone having to fully own the role they played. And while it can be tempting to analyze intentions or try to understand someone else’s conscience, I don’t think that’s necessary in order to trust your own experience.

What I’m most grateful for this year is that, through everything, I’ve remained human. Kind. Patient. Understanding. I’ve always promised myself that no matter what happens, I won’t let difficult experiences change how I treat people or how I move through the world.

I’ve never regretted being kind - whether to people who have been consistently supportive, or to those who haven’t been. Kindness has never been about whether someone “deserved” it. It’s about who I am and how I choose to show up.

Over the past while, I’ve been dealing with a lot of personal things that needed to take precedence. During that time, the patience and kindness shown to me has meant more than I can properly express. Stepping back didn’t diminish my appreciation - it only deepened it.

As the year closes, I’m thankful for the grace I’ve been able to extend, and for the grace that’s been extended to me. I’m looking ahead with clarity, steadiness, and gratitude.

2026 is a new year and will be one of the best yet. And I look forward to moving through this year with people I’ve had the honour meeting previously and new individuals who can bring something beautiful to my life (and I - who can hopefully have a positive impact on theirs too).

I’ll be back on the 2nd and 3rd of January and back to my regular Wednesday to Saturday schedule. I will respond to everyone’s texts and emails as soon as I find a chance.

I wish everyone a peaceful end to the year and a gentle start to the next.

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